Making room for ideas

Easier to disapprove of an idea than to see its positive aspects

Do we tend to nip ideas in the bud quickly? Although much of the psychological literature is based on the importance of saying "no," it seems that this negative response is widely used. Dorian Di Betta states in this speech given in January 2023 that France, by the way, is the world champion in the art of opposing. Or to reply "yes but..." which automatically defeats the affirmative. It would be better to have a more encouraging approach according to him. For example, answer "yes and" by adding an affirmative proposition. To a question like "Can I go out tonight?" it would be more effective in his opinion to say "Yes and be back by 11 p.m."

Also adopting the approach of 3 compliments and a questioning would be a better way to address discomfort with a project. Thus, by highlighting what is working and questioning about the more contentious issue, the person chooses a more constructive and encouraging approach.

Playing "angel's advocate" to consider the positive aspect of an idea is more appreciative in her opinion. This is not to say that all ideas are good. But a suspicious approach to every idea nips thousands in the bud. As a result, innovations like the RNA vaccine might never have seen the light of day if people were constantly told "no."

Length: 15 minutes