Men who reject imposed virility

Since the "Me too" movement, many feel that a reflection on men's posture and domination has begun. This has led to the deconstruction of some and, in turn, to masculinist currents bent on crushing women. However, the former did not wait for the movement denouncing sexist and sexual violence to free themselves from its shackles.

A few years before "Me too", a Swiss researcher went to meet some thirty men living in the San Francisco area, a very progressive place that has been at the forefront of feminist, LGBTQIA+ and personal development advances. These men, generally in their 30s and 40s, discussed with her what led to this deconstruction of the destructive male role.

Often, the spark of revelation was witnessing violence, strong or subtle, towards a woman in their life. Whether it was domestic violence or almost dehumanizing jokes about a female colleague at work, they realized they didn't want to repeat this pattern in their own lives.

So they turned their attention to the prejudices and discrimination suffered by the women in their lives. Their mothers, sisters, spouses and friends provided invaluable advice and, given their openness on the subject, were able to show the whole structure of domination still present in a society such as that of the United States, in this case. They were never attracted by the Andrew Tate model, which was highly abusive, violent and contemptuous of women. On the contrary, they felt a greater sense of liberation and well-being when they stopped submitting to male shackles, allowing themselves to be sensitive, to be close to their children.

Some even chose the life of a stay-at-home dad. A situation which, ironically, sometimes led to tensions in the couple, with the wife feeling almost jealous or guilty of missing out on elements of their little ones' lives while at work. A clear example of how executives weigh down individuals and make them feel guilty.

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