Technologies

Publish at October 15 2020 Updated July 01 2025

Directory of social or parental control and surveillance tools

Drawing the line between laissez-faire, surveillance and responsibility

A question of control

Around the world, it's the same story: we're spending more and more time in front of the screen, and not always in very useful, interesting or socially enriching ways. The problem can be summed up in one question: "Who's really in control?

The design of applications for mobile devices and consoles takes advantage of our slightest weaknesses and fosters dependency through well-targeted reinforcements. Fortunately, when we realize the extent of our loss of control, often from screen time measurement applications, we become more open to making a change.

This step may seem simple, but it's all the more essential because when we ask people how much time they estimate they spend on their phone, it's systematically underestimated. Add to this the tablet, TV and console, and the figure sometimes hurts the eyes.

iOS and Android now offer screen time measurement apps for their devices. That's a start.

Taking back control

This app suggests self-discipline as an approach. The best way to correct bad habits is not to fight them directly, but to adopt better ones instead.

  • Flipd

    Enter your study time, reading time, work time, goals, etc. Analyze your progress and share it with your community for positive reinforcement.
    for real use
    Android and iOS

  • Offtime

    Pauses distracting apps, prevents untimely scrolling of news feeds and short videos.
    Android and iOS

Mom, what's self-discipline?

For children, self-discipline isn't innate, especially when parents are already busy. Here are three apps, one for coaching and the others for external control, but without invading children's privacy.

  • Xooloo

    Virtual coach to help kids better control their screen time.
    Tracking of time spent, social emulation, no geolocation or supervision of communications: the relationship of trust between child and parent is preserved.
    3 to 7 euros / month, depending on the number of devices.
    Windows, Mac, Android and iOS

  • Microsoft Parental Control

    Screen time also includes console games. The Xbox is part of the Microsoft family, and the company offers families the possibility of controlling all activities on PC or console.
    The software is free of charge.
    Windows

Surveillance

From here on in, we enter the easy way: that of external control and Little Brother-style surveillance. The fact that antivirus companies offer this kind of service illustrates the spirit of these policed applications. Ethical issues do not arise.

They don't hesitate to monitor what young people write, where they go, what they watch, what they photograph, with whom they communicate, what they search for, etc. One assumes that when you've truly lost control, these applications give you the impression of retaining some of it and assuming parental responsibility. We could call these applications "teenage crisis fertilizer".

In the world of espionage, a fundamental principle governs the information obtained: you never make public information obtained through espionage, at the risk of compromising both the source and the relationships. To maintain a modicum of trust, you must at least inform the person you are monitoring.

In real time.
  • Bark

    Everything that can be done in terms of surveillance, this does, with an extra level: we analyze what is said to detect what could be problematic, including in conversations. If there's a problem, the parent is notified. Little brother watches over you.
    5 to $14 per month.
    Windows, Mac, Android and iOS

  • ESET

    Application control, locator, site blocking, screen time limits and even parental messages that must be read before continuing to use the device.
    30/year
    Android

  • Kaspersky Safe kids

    An anti-virus company that offers monitoring software... they know a few tricks for monitoring what's being done on a device, including YouTube requests or FaceBook posts.
    $15 / month
    Windows, Mac, Android and iOS

  • Kidslox

    Allows you to block apps, filter sites and set daily screen time limits, and even geolocation as an option.
    6 per month or $100 lifetime.
    Windows, Mac, Android and iOS


  • Mspy

    Monitors everything written, searched, photographed, sites visited, places frequented, what's shared, who's been called and all without the person knowing. Trust is optional.
    $€

  • Net Nanny
    Control access to content and applications, monitor activities and movements.
    50/year
    Windows, Mac, Android, iOS and Kindle

  • Norton Family

    An antivirus company offers to monitor your children. Parents can see search terms and videos viewed, control content to make it age-appropriate, set screen time limits and more.
    "School Mode" helps children limit distractions.
    Subscription $€
    Windows, Android and iOS

  • Qustodio

    All-in-one parental control and digital well-being solution: extended reports, site blocking, screen time limits, control of games and apps, monitoring of YouTube, social networks, Android calls and SMS, geolocation.
    Also available for schools, libraries and businesses.
    $€
    Windows, Mac, Android, iOS and Kindle
    see the Qustodio presentation on Thot Cursus

  • Screen Time

    Allows you to block applications, filter sites and set daily screen time limits, block on demand, monitor usage, geolocate, monitor and even draw virtual geographic boundaries. All that's missing is the police.
    7 / month
    Windows, Mac, Android and iOS

  • WebWatcher

    Anything that can be done in terms of monitoring, this does it, you can even see deleted texts, screen capture, photos, calls, etc. Super brother watches over you.
    $€
    Windows, Mac, Android and iOS

  • XNSpy

    In real time, remotely, know everything that's being done, said, written, watched, called on networks, on the web and even location.
    $€
    iOS and Android


Add to these applications those for managing DNS (domain addresses - Domain Name System) on VPNs (Virtual Private Network) and we begin to understand how states can control and monitor the Internet and everything that's done on it; if we're capable, they're probably just as capable and better.

Reference

Gestion des écrans: reprendre (enfin!) le contrôle - Isabelle Audet - La Presse
https://www.lapresse.ca/vivre/famille/201801/29/01-5151802-gestion-des-ecrans-reprendre-enfin-le-controle.php


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