Some people prefer quiet recognition, while others, on the contrary, like to display it publicly and will do anything to get it. Receiving recognition seems desirable but can also be perceived as a disruptive external attention. Receiving recognition and learning to give it—including to oneself—also prepares us to recognize others and accept recognition of our own worth from others.
Finding the balance between self-worth and the appreciation of others is not always easy, especially when one is young and facing one’s first successes. Social media has taken full advantage of this social need for recognition. 100 “likes” have one effect; 10,000 have another. How can we learn to interpret this recognition? Not all forms of recognition are equal.
Institutions use recognition as a mark of prestige, both in giving it and in receiving it. Schools use it to mark the end of a stage and as an occasion for celebration. At work, recognition is one of the most effective tools managers have for their staff, but it requires their genuine commitment, not just superficial recognition. Generally individual, recognition can also extend to an entire group if one knows how to acknowledge the specific contributions of each person to the success of the whole.
In principle, recognition must be earned. Recognition that reeks of obsequiousness has little impact, nor does recognition that is bought, like a fake diploma. The way recognition is obtained or bestowed speaks to its value. A simple, well-timed “Thank you” can sometimes make all the difference.
Public recognition draws attention and, as a result, disrupts the activity or peace of mind of the recipient; some of these forms of recognition are worth it, while others serve only to bolster those who bestow them. You can always refuse them.
What is the effect of recognition on oneself and on others? How can recognition be used in education?
For some, the only valid forms of recognition are those we give ourselves, stemming from our own efforts, and those we deem deserved, whereas for others, recognition holds considerable transactional value that is worth managing well. The way others see us changes our own perception of ourselves; if we are appreciated, it must mean something... the key is to keep a cool head and maintain our integrity.
Those who have supported us for nearly 30 years now will know who they are, as will those who have been with us for 10 years, and even those who have joined us just one month ago. Thank you all; thanks to you, we can look ahead.
Denys Lamontagne
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